My family has all been here since Thursday late morning. Very nice, but then again, not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My family is all so very closed off, and it’s because of alcohol.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hubby just stays in his office room. That’s it, or sits outside with a book.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That’s all he does. With alcohol. Or wishing about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He can’t get away from it. I can’t get away from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This morning, Sunday, August 27 he and two of my boys left to go back to FL<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Before that, he tried to get me to hug him goodbye, saying he loved me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
All I could do is to protest, he does not love me, he barely talked to me or interacted with his family for 3 days. He was looking at me so shocked-like and then came up with “I wanted you to have all the time you could with your boys” …. so I was mentioning that we all are a family and he just isn’t part of it, and that shows how much he loves any of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I wanted him to go, leave me alone, he refuses to talk about the family problem, which is something he has intimated before, no way, he doesn’t want to talk about alcohol. Well we need to. It impacts us just as much as him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He needs a hobby of something, something different. There is nothing that can drag him from alcohol. NOTHING and NOBODY.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It wasn’t a very good time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
No time is good anymore. Everything sucks.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
My family has all been here since Thursday late morning. Very nice, but then again, not. Why? My family is all so very closed off, and it’s because of alcohol. Hubby just stays in his office room. That’s it, or sits outside with a book. That’s all he does. With alcohol. Or wishing about it. 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