Stress

Anyone can take a stressor and turn it into a benign thing to not react to.

When I do that in my home, it is me being ambivalent to my husband’s excessive attitude for drinking alcohol, then making it into a non-reaction thing. Ignore functioning.

That’s how one enables another.

When I mention the words “drink” or “beer” or “alcohol” –an instant button is pushed in him.

My tack with all this the last couple of years is “stop binging” “stop drinking” it’s too much, not good for you and bad for the family.

My children are mentioning things about his drinking, and he blames me. I don’t tell them to say things. They want to say things, they are concerned.

Stress is all too rampant, and one thing that is bad for stress is applying alcohol. You don’t solve anything that way.

He waffles about not drinking and then drinks some, then drinks more, then maybe drinks a lot, after that the cycle begins again.

His drinking is his. But his actions are his to others. Him drinking effects changes that cause STRESS on everyone around him.

I also have a trauma afflictions that triggers when he mouths off at me. Inflammation, hurray.

I have so much I could say, but saying anything is hit or miss but never sticks.